The one thing that you want.

A rich man on a yacht sails by a fisherman in a small boat.

The rich man yells out to the fisherman: “if you ever want a job on my yacht, I would pay you handsomely to fish for me.”

“That’s very kind of you, but no thank you.”

“But I would pay you very well — you could buy a bigger boat! Don’t you want to be a rich man like me?”

“Ah,” the fisherman replies. “you may be rich but I have something that you’ll never have.”

“What’s that?” The rich man inquires — incredulous!

“Enough.”

Everyone in the world wants only one thing.

And everyone wants the same thing.

Enough.

The problem is that we are really shit at knowing what is enough when we see it.

I am envious of people who — after being offered a second slice of cake — say “no thanks, I’ve had enough.”

To my dentist’s dismay, I missed out on that gene.

But knowing what enoughness feels like is pretty much essential if you want to be happy and live a good life.

Sadly, society prioritizes more over enough.

Society teaches you to desire, want, and yearn. To upgrade your kitchen, your smart phone, and your wardrobe. To swipe to find a better partner, go back to school to find a better job, and earn more to buy more stuff so that eventually you get closer and closer to having enough.

But the definition of enough keeps changing.

An engagement ring that was enough used to be one month’s salary. Now it’s THREE. A wedding day used to be just that. A day. Now it’s a whole weekend. A desirable physique used to be “slim and toned” and now it’s Victoria-Secret level athletic-skinny achieved solely with a combination of pilates, yoga, HIIT, calisthenics, weightlifting, and (let’s be honest) a personal nutritionist.

This relentless, insatiable appetite for more is the ultimate joy killer.

All you want in your life, really, is enough. And the only way you’re ever going to get it is to commit to defining what enoughness looks like to you and never, ever, changing that definition.

So ask yourself, honestly, what’s enough for you?

If you’re not there yet, that’s OK, too.

In the meantime, appreciate what you do have — because if you don’t, even having enough won’t feel like it.

Without a mindset of enoughness, you’ll never have it.

But with a mindset of enoughness, perhaps you’re already there.